The scarcity principle…

I went out last night and I was having a nice time dancing and mingling. I was standing there with 2 married girls, 1 girl who has a boyfriend and 2 single guys around my age. I thought, “hey! The odds are much better than usual! Usually there are 5 single girls to every single guy! I know I can’t screw this up.” We talked about things that the guys were interested in. I used to interject with wit and charm but I have taken a little more laidback stance on that lately. I was really cool...
One of the guys started to talk about how his computer had gotten bogged down and how he was going to buy a new one. I jumped in and started to say, “Oh. Did you try msconfi…” (I stopped myself- guys can’t stand girls who know more about a subject than they do…I continued in a less knowledgeable voice…I even made the pitch a little higher with a playful giggle )” …I mean, “oh shoot! Mine’s messed up too! “ (the odds of me having a broken computer are very low)!” … Feewww…Good save! Now they are back in charge again. The guys spent most of the evening talking to the girl with the boyfriend. They were clamoring over her, buying her drinks all night. They knew that I was single and I was having fun with them but for some reason, the girl who was taken and giggled and drank all night, was the one they were begging for her number. I know you’re thinking “well! She must be hotter and younger!” Well…Not really! She was about the same age within a couple years, same body type, hair…not really any prettier I suppose. It occurred to me that they actually wanted her because she was taken. It’s the scarcity principle! If I had a “stunt” boyfriend with me, I bet guys would spend more time trying to be with me simply because I was with someone. It is human nature to want what other people already have! Hmm…well that sort of sucks! That means that people with a significant other can get another, less significant other? Doesn’t that mean that the people who are only attracted to people who already have someone, are deciding that the other is insignificant? That’s really convenient!

There’s really no way to change this obvious flaw in the human character. The only thing we can do is believe that a person who would be right for us, wouldn’t be interested in the type of person who may be coming off as available even though she is “taken.” Would that same guy be all right with it if he was that girl’s boyfriend and she was out acting as though he doesn’t matter? The hardest thing to realize is that It truly isn’t our problem! We can’t compare our lives to hers. The fact is that he isn’t likely the one for us if he can’t see the quality in front of him. We cannot allow these things to bother us because in the scheme of things, eventually the right person will choose us. Unfortunately it is hard to walk on the high road while you’re watching everyone running by you on the low one…