Sunday, July 19, 2009

What’s she hiding from?

How can it be that day after day, a person can feel so positive and able to turn anything into a “good thing” and then one day, something trivial happens and the next 4 or 5 days end up being a waste? I need to wrap my mind around something at all times. When I’m not working towards a goal, I get useless really quickly. People may ask “what is she hiding from?” I think that they may have that wrong…or at least I hope they do! If the highs are so high and the lows turn days into weeks, what exactly is the problem? I have a theory. Not everyone has absolutely everything that they want out of life. As a matter of fact, I’ve even heard people say, “you can’t have it all!” …What? I can’t? Well…that’s unacceptable! Yes I can. Who are these people who are telling me that I can’t have it all anyway? Are they people who don’t have it all? Or are they people who are afraid that I just might be able to have it all myself? The point is that everyone has bad days and people are always searching for something. The catch is that while they are searching to fill that missing piece of themselves, they can either choose to fill the empty space with positive thoughts and gratitude for the things they already have, or sadness over the lack of what they are searching for. I choose gratitude. The trouble with filling the space with negative behavior or thoughts is that negative behavior can easily spill over into the other areas of a person’s life. People tell me that it’s okay to feel bad once in a while. I agree. But how many people do you know who can just feel bad for one day and wake up the next ready to start again. It sounds like a good idea but often it takes more work to undo the negative self-talk from the day before than to just do your best to reprogram it in the moment! Take an alcoholic for example. If someone has been alcohol-free for 6 months and one small trigger takes aim at him, taking that drink will undo all of the good that has been done. A person without that vice would say, “That’s okay. It’s all about moderation!” That person doesn’t get it! That one drink will likely turn into weeks of drinks. One tiny trigger has the ability to unravel 6 months worth of positive behavior. Now… I recognize that not everyone can be happy all the time, but no one can afford to throw day after day away to something that’s missing! There’s nothing wrong with a person who fills that empty space with productivity. Would dwelling in lack bring what was missing? I don’t think so. We can have it all even if we don’t have it all yet. Why not spend “yet” in the most positive way we can?